The Man-Eating Power of Fear

Sun, Apr 29, 2012

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Common Fears that Men Face


Sometimes you need to head towards the storm. Face your fears and trust that God will be faithful as you head towards the storm.


My favorite word in the English language is the word "next." But despite our hard exteriors, we bruise easily. When we are rejected relationally, or face other setbacks, it hurts. But we just need to tee up the next one.


Decision Making. Like a plane waiting on the runway, circling around and never taking off. Many guys are afraid of making decisions.


Work. Guys are frustrated because they are afraid that they will never be great at something. We want to be great at work, what we do. But God's word never calls us to that. A great heart for the Lord, great fathers and great husbands, that's what God calls us to. He doesn't call us to do what we love. He calls us to love what you do. There's a big difference.


Community. Guys are slow to engage in Bible study, community groups, etc. because they are afraid to be outed. They're afraid to be called out. You don't have to lead it. You just have to go and engage.


Finances. Guys are afraid that we won't be able to provide for our families. We are afraid we won't be able to keep our jobs. We are afraid that we won't be able to put food on the table. We are afraid that we won't be able to put our kids through college, or pay for our daughter's wedding.


Relationships. Husbands are deathly afraid of confronting sin in their own families. Sin creates a gap in a relationship. If that isn't dealt with, that gap will grow. One bad interaction can lead to days, weeks, and months of increasing distance.


Disapproval of our Wives. We are fearful of our wives disapproval. We just hate it. That leads us to withhold things that we ought to be doing. We don't bring up stuff that we should. We don't talk about what we need to be talking about. When the relationship is in trouble, it is usually the wife who calls for counseling. If your marriage is not good right now, you need to be a man and make the call.


1 Corinthians 16:13-14 Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong.


Decision Making. Be the man! Make a decision and live with it. Don't be afraid of making a wrong decision. So what if you make a bad one? Make another decision, even if it is a bad one, until you make the right one. It's not what you have done that matters, it's what you do next. If you are living in the weight of a past poor decision, or sin, repent and leave it behind. In the process of making decisions, bear the fruit of the Spirit. Do it with joy. 1 John 4:18 gives us a picture of the contrast between fear and love. Perfect love casts out fear.


John 14:27  Peace I leave with you;  my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you.  Let not your hearts be troubled, neither  let them be afraid.

Is. 41:13 For I, the LORD your God, hold your right hand; it is I who say to you, “Fear not, I am the one who helps you.”

Deut. 31:6 Be strong and courageous. Do not fear or be in dread of them,  for it is the LORD your God who goes with you.  He will not leave you or forsake you.”

2Tim. 1:7 for God gave us  a spirit not of fear but  of power and love and self-control.

Heb. 13:6 So we can confidently say, “The Lord is my helper; I will not fear; what can man do to me?”